HOLI

Its very bad to hear from a teenage boy that Holi won't be fun without girls or there are no female members around to play Holi so its going to be boring. Or balloons/ (lola)  are to be hit just to females! When I heard this, I was like "This is wrong, very wrong concept". And it was not just him many brothers in the social networking sites updated "Holi is boring cause they could not hit lola to girls ". I exactly knew where he learnt from so i was kind of feeling guilty for being a member of the society where Holi is supposed to be fun when hitting the girls or ladies! I felt a little guilty because someway somehow our brothers are learning the wrong concept from our society. And we are not noticing this or we are not being able to prevent this. 

I remember being attacked with the color bombs while i was returning from school by a guy. He was with a group of friends and he was our neighboring friend so at that age i was like i will take the revenge with you on that day "The Holi" day but then today i feel like even my brothers who were almost of same age were never attacked before Holi. I too remember my cousin sister sharing her experience being attacked by group of guys around her area and how she felt so embarrassed being all wet from top to bottom and she could do nothing at that age.

 I had always loved Holi and I grew up playing Holi with my brothers but after my school it was not that easy. "Now you are grown up. Don't act like kid . Have you seen the sisters around your neighbor come and play Holi" And I was like they might not like or it might be that they were also not allowed to come and play Holi. But today I know why, why was there so much of restrictions. Because we have this society where hitting a girl with lola is fun, where Holi won't be fun without a girl. And my parents concern were not wrong. 

I have also heard Holi is fun near by Basantapur area especially for boys because there are foreign girls playing Holi. Again fun because girls are there huh! So Holi fun! because of girls? Or because of the colors ? I have cried many Holi's cause I did not had friend to play Holi or I could not play Holi as much as my friends or brothers.  And when i see in TV there are both females and males playing Holi and having fun. I was discussing with a friend like how come few girls still manage to go out there in the mass and have the fun and  I was amused by the answer. The answer was " The girls who go and play Holi with the strangers are characterless!" And I had a big fight " A guy can play Holi with strangers and a girl can't or she will be characterless is this what our society teach us ? I bet a lot differ with this answer and would not accept it now but there are people in this society who think that way and that is what they are transferring to our younger generation. 

And yes to prove that concept wrong in one of the Holi I went to play Holi out with my girl friend in my scooty and played Holi with strangers and we were not abused we had healthy Holi and we came back home sound and safe. Not every guy out there come to play Holi with this concept, and not every girl who go out and play Holi are bad. 

My main point is wishing to play Holi does not make a girl characterless but thinking that Holi is fun because of girls do make you characterless. Lets keep an eye on what our younger generations are learning from our society. And possibly change the views of those who are building the wrong concept. Lets promote the colors of Happiness. Happy Holi !